5 Insightful Books on Life Purpose

5 Insightful Books on Life Purpose

A few people (clients and friends) have asked me about some books on purpose. Subsequently, today I thought I would share some of the books that have had an impact on my understanding of purpose. However, before I share them, following is a little bit about purpose.

 

What is Purpose?

There are a few meanings of purpose out there, including –

  • “the reason for which something exists or is done, made, used, etc” or “an intended or desired result” ~ Dictionary.com
  • “something set up as an object or end to be attainedintention” ~ Merriam-Webster 
  • “The object toward which one strives or for which something exists; an aim or goal” and “the reason for which anything is done, created, or exists” ~ the Free Dictionary

And when you are on purpose, you are “by intentintentionally” ~ Merriam-Webster. Personally, I think about it as the Why? 

 

So then, What is Life Purpose?

If we look at the definitions above, it is knowing your own purpose for being here. Or as Simon Sinek says – your Why? Yes – that is BIG and DEEP!

Your life purpose is important. And I am gathering, deep down you know you are here for a reason, you just may not be sure of it as yet. Don’t worry, your life purpose can take a while to identify (well it did for me and alot of my clients anyway).

Mark Twain said it this way – “The most important days in your life are the day you are born and the day you find out why.”

 

5 Insightful Books on Life Purpose

Following are 5 insightful book I recommend to people who are interested in finding out more about life purpose. They are in no particular order 🙂

* A Return to Love – Marianne Williamson

If you have heard or read the poem / quote –

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate, our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.

It is our light, not our darkness that frightens us.

We ask ourselves – Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be?

Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking, so that other people won’t feel insecure around you.

We are born to manifest the glory that is within us. It is not within some of us, it is in everyone.

And when we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” ~ Marianne Williamson

 

This is the book it came from as Oprah articulates in the following clip with the writer, Marianne Williamson. Yes, it is worth the time to invest to read.

* The Alchemist – Paulo Coehlo

This book tells the story of a young boy Santiago. An Andalusian shepherd boy who yearns to travel in search of a worldly treasure. Santiago’s adventure shares with us about the essential wisdom of listening to our hearts, recognising opportunity and learning to read the signs along life’s path, and, most importantly, to follow our dreams.

 

* Mindset by Carol Dweck 

Mindset – Changing the Way You think to Fulfil Your Potential by Carol Dweck explains in details the research behind a growth mindset and fixed mindset. You can watch more in her Ted Talk below or purchase the book to read more.

* Start With Why – Simon Sinek

In the book – Start with Why – How Great Leaders Inspire Everyone to Take Action, Simon Sinek shares his process of starting with why, then how and what. If you haven’t seen it already, his Ted Talk gives you a really good overview of the his process (the Golden Circle).

* The Gifts of Imperfection – Brené Brown

This was the first book of Brené’s that I read and I really enjoyed it. She is a leading researcher on shame and this book really helps with understanding it and increasing self-acceptance. Also, if you like this book, you will also love her more recent books Braving the Wilderness and Rising Strong.

 

Over to You…

Well there you have it 5 insightful books on Life Purpose. Are there any others you would add to the list? If so, feel free to share below in the comments!

My Adventure to Becoming a Professional Certified Coach (PCC)

My Adventure to Becoming a Professional Certified Coach (PCC)

The past few weeks I have had a few people ask me about coaching and how I became a coach. Subsequently, today I thought I would share that in a timeline as it has been an adventure to becoming a Professional Certified Coach (PCC) with the International Coaching Federation (ICF).

 

What is Coaching?

The International Coach Federation (ICF) refers to coaching as –

“partnering with clients in a thought-provoking and creative process that inspires them to maximize their personal and professional potential.”

Another definition of coaching from Anthony Grant includes –

“A collaborative, solution-focused, results-orientated and systematic process in which the coach facilitates the enhancement of performance, life experience, self-directed learning and the personal growth of people from normal (non-clinical) populations.”

Coaching recognises the client as the expert in their own world (personal and professional) and knows every person is creative, resourceful, and whole.

Basically the coaching process is about identifying where you are now, where you would like to be and then close that gap. The coach does this through –

  • discovering, clarifying, and aligning with where the client wants to be,
  • encouraging self-discovery and trust within themselves,
  • eliciting client-generated solutions and strategies,
  • keeping the client accountable and ensuring they are taking responsibility for themselves
  • providing support to the client.

Coaching is not –

  • a quick-fix, one size fits all approach for your current challenges (as we are all unique),
  • therapy or counseling (please seek a licensed medical professional if this is what you need),
  • about giving you advice (you are the expert in your own life),
  • financial advising or estate planning (again please seek a licensed practitioner if this is what you require).

How Can a Coach Help?

The ICF has recently put together this great video that answers this question, so please watch it below –

My Interest in Coaching

Seriously, my interest in the space of coaching started when I was a young girl. Growing up, I would have friends share with me experiences about their life. As I was a curious child, I would ask questions and listen. Over the years, this curiosity for life grew and even though I was coaching tennis from a young child, I enjoyed the social aspect of coaching the most as I was genuinely interested in what made people tick and wanted to create.

My life continued to evolve as I became a professional athlete. Then after I did my double undergraduate degree, coaching was mentioned again, however was quite focused on teaching by that stage.

Fast forward a few years and whilst I was working in a National Mental Health and Wellbeing initiative called MindMatters (now BeYou) I had people asked me to support them and their growth. By that stage, I had consciously started my own healing adventure and was exploring a number of professions and training.

I explored counseling, completed some training and did some counseling for a while. In my undergraduate degree, I had also done some psychology, however it didn’t resonate.

Even though I had several sports coaches since I was a young person, somehow I knew that was not my calling. Then life coaching literally found me and that is a story for another day. Now I have had coaches and mentor coaches (in the area of life and career) since around 2006. I have found them invaluable and continue to grow in to the space myself. And yes, for me it is about (un)learning, which is why I am grateful I had the experience of other modalities like somatic education, mindfulness, self-compassion etc.

 

What Training Did I Do to Be a Certified Coach?

As coaching is an unregulated industry, I have chosen to align with the International Coaching Federation (ICF). The ICF is the leading coaching body that is –

“dedicated to advancing the coaching profession by setting high standards, providing independent certification and building a worldwide network of trained coaching professionals.”

Subsequently, the training I originally completed was –

I have since gone on to complete the following training –

  • February 2016 – Diploma in Life Coaching with the Life Coaching Academy (LCA), and
  • March 2018 – Advanced Certificate in Nutrition and Health Coaching with Cadence Health (now Well College Global). I did this training with Well College Global as my insurance provider didn’t acknowledge previous training (i.e. my degrees) as enough to coach in the space of Nutrition and Health.

 

My Adventure to Becoming a Professional Certified Coach (PCC)

Following is a bit more detail to my adventure of becoming a Professional Certified Coach (PCC).

Member of the ICF –

In July 2004, I became a member of the International Coaching Federation (ICF).

Click here to read more about membership.

 

 

 

Associate Certified Coach (ACC) –

August 2004, I became an Associate Certified Coach (ACC). My Certificate IV in Life Coaching was part of the ACTP Pathway and then I was also required to document at least 100 hours (70 paid*) of coaching experience with at least eight clients following the start of my coach-specific training and complete a knowledge assessment.

You can read more here about the ICF Coach Pathways.

 

Professional Certified Coach (PCC) –

July 2020 – I became a Professional Certified Coach (PCC). In order to become a PCC, I completed over 125 hours of coach-specific training through an ACTP with the Life Coaching Academy. 10 hours of Mentor Coaching over about four months with my mentor coach. Over 500 hours of coaching experience with more than 25 clients following the start of my coach-specific training.

You can read more here about the ICF Coach Pathways.

 

Over to You…

I hope this has helped give you some insight in to a pathway of becoming a Professional Certified Coach (PCC). My intention to completing this credential was to continue to provide consistent, high quality and excellent value to my clients.

Yes it taken a number of years, however throughout that time I also completed a number of Continuing Professional Development (CPD) as I am committed to growing / (un)learning in order to be of service to my clients and community. I also found out along the adventure, what pathways didn’t resonate with me and that has also been a wonderful (albeit sometimes very uncomfortable) (un)learning experience in itself.

If you have any questions, please leave them below or contact me here.

Today I Am Ready After Connecting My Own Dots

Today I Am Ready After Connecting My Own Dots

Last week I went to see a coach whom I have been working with for a while now. Over the years, she has helped me prepare me for my next step. The step that has been a deep calling of mine for many years now, however I didn’t have the confidence or trust in myself to take it. The step of sharing more in the space of wellbeing and sport.

As Steve Jobs, said so eloquently in his Stanford Commencement Address in 2005,

 “It was impossible to connect the dots looking forward when I was in college, but it was very, very clear looking backwards 10 years later. Again, you cannot connect the dots looking forward, you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that somehow the dots will connect to your future. You have to trust that something – your gut, destiny, life, karma, what ever. Because believing that the dots will connect down the road will give you the confidence to follow your heart, even when it leads you off the well worn path. And that will make all of the difference.”

Connecting My Own Dots…

Today I am ready to share with you some of my own life dots. In January 2002, I moved to the Gold Coast to take up a position as a Health and Physical Education Teacher at Tamborine Mountain State High School. After graduating from the University of Newcastle with a Double Degree (Bachelor of Teaching / Bachelor of Health and Physical Education with Hons), I felt I needed space to create a new identity. Be in a space where very few people knew my past as an athlete and accepted me just for me and the job that I was doing – supporting students to learn health and physical education HPE.

I loved being a HPE teacher, however in June 2004 a position as the QLD State Project Officer came up with MindMatters – a National Mental Health and Wellbeing initiative. When I read the position description, I knew it was something I could do as it aligned so well with Health and Physical Education (as well as my Masters of Education that I had completed in my first year of teaching). So I applied and after an interview and bit of paperwork, I took leave without pay from my teaching position and dove head first in to that position in September 2004.

One Dot – A Conversation with Jo…

This position ended up helping me cement my passion. Besides learning the nuts and bolts of mental health and wellbeing and how to develop a whole-school approach to mental health and wellbeing, I was lucky enough to work with and be supported by some amazing people.

I distinctly remember having a conversation in the redevelopment phase of MindMatters (MM) with the National Co-ordinator of Strategic Development, Jo Mason. I had the upmost respect for Jo and was extremely grateful to have been able to work with her. This conversation was on empowerment and I remember like it was yesterday.

As we often did, we were discussing teaching, students and how they learn. This discussion sparked something in me that I didn’t know was there until later. I made a comment along the lines of –

“It doesn’t matter what the teacher does, if the students’ perception of themselves is that they are stupid or worthless, they are not going to learn. The student has to learn to see through or untangle those beliefs themselves. They may even be subconsciously sabotaging (or protecting) themselves.”

I didn’t know it at the time, but I was referring to me. Yes – I believed I was stupid, worthless, something was wrong with me and would never amount to anything. I had taken on board and believed these thoughts/beliefs from a variety of past experiences. I am not sure if Jo knew I was referring to me (I suspect she did as she was quite intuitive and a wise womxn.

Subsequently – from my own experiences, I can now see I am the only one that can empower me and you are the only one that can empower yourself.

More than likely you will face your deepest fears, be challenged and mistakes will be made along the way, however that is part of the gift of the (un)learning process and adventure of life. It does not mean you’re a failure, something is wrong with you or you are worthless. Ralph Waldo Emerson put it this way –

“What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.”

Another Dot – My First Silent 10-Day Silent Meditation Retreat

During my time with MindMatters, I started noticing some similar patterns that I had experienced as an athlete. I was pushing and striving to be the best I could be. However, I was also struggling with my energy and looking after myself. Three seperate experiences occurred in quick succession, which led me to my first 10-day silent meditation retreat.

Seriously, I didn’t really know the depth of what I signed-up for. When I went in to this retreat, I was drinking two or three energy drinks a day (yes to help me get through the day with all of the things I thought I needed to do to live up to this person I thought I was). I was so busy, the thought of retreating and chilling for a while was quite appealing. However, this is not how my first experience evolved.

Those 10-days were one of the most challenging experiences of my life. Sitting in meditation for about 10 hours per day was painful. Being with my own mind, without any distractions was interesting to say the least. However, as it turned out, exactly what I needed.

After the extreme pain subsided on about day 5 or 6, I had a very clear seeing. I saw deeply there were other parts of me that I had been hiding and not expressing. And if I chose to, the next step in my personal work was to untangle them. So I have been ever since. And yes, this adventure continues as I practise mindfulness and self-compassion and other habits I have learnt/remembered along the adventure.

“The most fundamental aggression to ourselves, the most fundamental harm we can do to ourselves, is to remain ignorant by not having the courage and the respect to look at ourselves honestly and gently.” ~ Pema Chödrön

Third Dot – Wellbeing is for Everybody and Everybody Supports Wellbeing!

Towards the end of 2020, I got told (again) that wellbeing is the job of psychologists. I have heard this many times before, however know it is not true. Yes, absolutely psychologists support the wellbeing of a range of people within society, including athletes and people whom work in sport. However, the wellbeing of athletes is not the sole responsibility of psychologists.

What do I mean by this? As I am not here to convince you, I will ask you some questions, so you can decide for yourself –

  • Do you think someone telling you, that you need to lose weight as a young person can impact your wellbeing?
  • If you feel unheard in a conversation, can that impact your wellbeing?
  • Thinking you do not have the resources or confidence to do your best, does that impact your wellbeing?
  • If you don’t know how to deal with challenges or emotions, can that impact your wellbeing?

If you got this far, am gathering you can see there are many elements to wellbeing and also wellbeing in sport (I wrote an article on wellbeing in sport here).

One of my favourite posters in my MM days, that we used to lovingly adapt is the image to the left. And yes, it still resonates with me today.

Final Dot (for now) – the Girl Who Changed My Life Without Realising It

This follows on from the last dot as well. When I was doing my Masters in Guidance and Counselling (yes I thought I was going to be a Guidance Officer in a school), I did some volunteer counselling on the phone. One night a young girl rang. It turned out she was in quite a lot of distress, so I needed to call my supervisor.

Throughout the call, I made sure she knew what was going on and could hear what I was saying to my supervisor. In many ways, I was repeating what she said to me, back to my supervisor. At the end of the call, when extra support arrived for her, she said to me –

“thank you so much for listening to me, you are the first person who has ever really listened to me.”

I remember that moment as if it was yesterday – it still touches me deeply. And yes, I agree with her – true listening and being present for another human is a gift. This also shows (again) that wellbeing is everybody’s business, as human beings are communicating most of their lives in some way.

Over to You…

I hope this has given you a little insight in to my world and how different experiences have shaped who I am today. Yes I can see now how these dots have helped me to transform different parts of my own inner world, which has allowed me step in to the next adventure with wellbeing and sport. I made a promise to myself a few years back that I wouldn’t step in to the space until I was ready and healed / transformed my own adventure. And that time is now.

Yes there are a some more dots. However for the moment, I sense this is enough (remember I am an introvert at heart).

If you have any questions, please let me know. Also, if you would like to find out more about the work I am doing in sport and wellbeing, please visit the website Life Beyond Elite Sport. I have also started sharing stories from other athletes who played sport as well as you just never know, their story could be a dot for another person 🙂

Acknowledgement – A big thanks to Tracy Zilm for the photo of Jo and I.

Thanks again for taking the time to read and take good care 🙂 xxx

What Are My Essential Needs?

What Are My Essential Needs?

So a few days ago, I wrote about what’s in my resilience toolkit after a number of people had asked how I had been coping with the world at present. Today I wanted to delve a little deeper and share what my essential needs are and where this concept came from. Let’s get started…

 

What are Essential Needs?

I came across Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs when I was studying at university. Abraham Maslow (1908-1970) started his professional career as a behaviourist, however moved on to become a psychoanalyst. In 1943, in a paper titled “A Theory of Human Motivation”, he proposed the psychological theory known as Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs. He suggested we had two different types of needs –

  • the first four levels are needs relating to survival and focusing on deficiencies (D-needs)
  • the final layer and needs relating to psychological growth and focusing on being ourselves and everything we are capable of becoming (B-needs).

Maslow suggested we focus on the first level of motivation and then once that is met, then we can focus on the next level. The Abraham Maslow – Hierarchy of Needs are as follows:

Abraham Maslow - Hierarchy of Needs

What are My Essential Needs?

When I read about this concept it resonated with me, and subsequently I started making small tweaks in my world. By looking at Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs, I identified a range of essential needs for myself, including  –

  • Biological and psychological needs – some of these include: drinking water each day, eating nourishing food, having comfy clothes), meditating, getting at least 7-8 hours of sleep and moving my body,
  • Safety needs – including living in a safe environment, honouring and listening to my emotions and having a place to live where I feel safe,
  • Belongingness and love needs – again, some of them include having family and friends who understand and listen to me, contributing to the community,
  • Esteem needs – learning new things and taking responsibility for what I can control, and
  • Self-actualisation needs – continuing to grow and evolve.

The above are a quite a few examples of my essential needs. It took me a while to recognise I had essential needs and to take care of them. Subsequently, it continues to be a work in progress for me (even though I lead a pretty simple life) 🙂

 

What are Your Essential Needs?

If you would like to, feel free to identify your own essential needs, by using the table above 🙂 As you are identifying your needs (if you choose to), remember to identify a need and not a want! What is the difference? Glad you asked! Personally I see the difference as –

  • a need, when filled nourishes you and helps you survive, and
  • a want, when filled entertains you or “It would be nice if..”.

If you confuse or substitute a want for a need, it can drain or deplete you of money, time and energy.

Over to You…

I hope this has give you some insight in to my essential needs at the moment. Over the years, what I have learnt working with clients and from my own experiences is that your deepest needs cannot be met by spending money, eating extra amounts of food or winning awards.

Meeting your essential needs is also an individual thing, something you need to find out for yourself. Kahlil Gibran puts it this way “Your friend is your needs answered.”

 

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Reference –

Maslow, A.H. (1943). A theory of human motivation. Psychological Review, 50(4), 370-96. Retrieved from http://psychclassics.yorku.ca/Maslow/motivation.htm

 

What’s In My Resilience Toolkit?

What’s In My Resilience Toolkit?

At the moment we are being asked to adapt and change. With change comes uncertainty. And uncertainty, can bring challenges challenges and quite often suffering. Within this dialogue of change, the concept of resilience is not too far behind. Subsequently, today I wanted to share with you a little about resilience, change and what’s in my resilience toolkit at the moment as I navigate the changes within my world. Let’s get started…

 

What is Resilience?

There are many definitions of resilience, including –

  • “the ability of a substance or object to spring back into shape; elasticity.” ~ Google
  • “ability to recover readily from illness, depression, adversity, or thelike; buoyancy.” Dictionary.com
  • “the capacity to recover quickly from difficulties; toughness.” ~ Google and Oxford Dictionaries
  • “the ability to become strong, healthy, or successful again after something bad happens” ~ Merriam-Webster Dictionary
  • “Resilience is the process of adapting well in the face of adversity, trauma, tragedy, threats, or even significant sources of stress – such as family and relationship problems, serious health problems, or workplace and financial stressors. It means “bouncing back” from difficult experiences.” ~ PsychCentral

Is there anything you would add to these definitions? If so, what?

 

What is Change?

Change is one of the few certainties in life.

Many of us want to change different things in our lives or about ourselves, but that is not the challenge.

The challenge (or issue) is we criticise and judge ourselves harshly for not making the change. And subsequently end up being in resistance with the present moment, which equates to suffering.

A few years ago, it dawned on me. I realised I had to change on the inside for the outside to change. It was a real lightbulb moment and I developed a deeper understanding of what Aldous Huxley meant when he said – “I wanted to change the world. But I have found that the only thing one can be sure of changing is oneself.”

There are many definitions of change, including –

  • “to make or become different” or “an act or process through which something becomes different” ~ Google
  • “to exchange one thing for another thing, especially of a similar type” or “to improve”Cambridge Dictionary
  • “to give a completely different form or appearance to; transform” ~ The Free Dictionary
  • “to become different, or to make someone or something different” ~ MacMillan Dictionary
  • “to become different”, “to make something or someone different” or “to become something else” ~ Merriam-Webster.

 

Types of Change

There are many types of change you can make in your life. It really depends on a number of factors, why you are wanting to make the change and also what context you are referring to the change in. For example – if you are reading this from an organisational perspective, changes can be made in relation to –

  • the people (i.e. cultural change, personnel changes and social change),
  • the organisation (i.e. leadership, structural or strategic change) or
  • the system (i.e. systems and processes, business expansion or improvement).

From a personal perspective, you can be experiencing change in a number of areas including –

  • your environment (i.e. where you live and your surrounds),
  • your relationships (i.e. meeting new people),
  • your physical health (i.e. the food you are eating and how much exercise you are doing),
  • your mental health (i.e. the thoughts that are continually going on in your head and whether you are reacting to them or choosing to respond),
  • your emotional health (i.e. experiencing your emotions or surpassing them), and
  • your spiritual health.

So, with change continually happening, what’s in my resilience toolkit?

 

A Peak in to My Resilience Toolkit

Over the years I have learnt a number of tools or resources that I have in my resilience toolkit. Over time, these resources have built up my resilience and resourcefulness, so I can respond to life’s challenges the best that I can at that moment in time. Following are the tools / resources that I continually come back to –

1. Practising Mindfulness

When I first starting learning mindfulness, I was on 3 or 4 “energy” drink a day, trying to be the best version of myself I could be. That made practising a little challenging 🙂 I persisted though and today, I continue to practise. Why? Because as I have so often said, the moment I think I have it is the moment I have lost it. As Sharon Salzberg says – “Mindfulness isn’t difficult, we just need to remember to do it.” 

2. Cultivating Self-Compassion

Unbeknownst to me, I had a very strong inner voice. When I first read Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself, by Dr Kristin Neff, I was surprised that I could be kind to myself. As a professional athlete, I learnt to be very critical and in the end realised I had a deep sense of unworthiness and never felt good enough. Therefore, learning self-compassion and continuing to cultivate it in my life has been an absolute gift and one that I will continue to cultivate. Remember – “If your compassion does not include yourself, it is incomplete.” ~ Jack Kornfield.

3. Taking Time Out To Journal

Yep I am an introvert and love being in my own space. I really enjoy taking time out to journal. Reflecting in my journal helps me to develop self-awareness on what is going on in my inner world, which in turn helps decrease my stress levels, sleep better and focus on what I can control. “I can shake off everything as I write; my sorrows disappear, my courage is reborn.” ~ Anne Frank.

4, Moving My Body

Even though I was once a professional athlete, I didn’t always like moving my body. I had some unlearning to do here as well, in particular around learning to listen to my body, not seeing movement as a punishment or earning the right to eat.  Today I am grateful I have found a variety of movement activities I really enjoy and have fun with. There is no pressure for me to achieve anything – I just have fun. Remember – “Your body hears everything your mind says.” ~ Naomi Judd

5. Eating Nourishing Food

Mmm, yep I had some (un)learning to do here as well. Growing up, I learnt about “good and bad” foods, what “I should and shouldn’t eat” and also a few other beliefs I needed to see and untangle from. Over the years, I am grateful that I have learnt to listen to my body and eat food that nourishes me. I am definitely still “a work in progress” here, however I little by little I continue to remember what Evelyn Tribole reminded me – “If you don’t love it, don’t eat it, and if you love it, savor it.”

6. Connecting With Family and Close Friends

Now this is in no particular order, just how they came to mind as I was writing! Even though I am an introvert, each day I connect with different family and close friends to check-in to see how they are going. Yes there is a lot of evidence about the importance of connection, so I suggest finding people whom you can trust and continue to create strong loving relationships. “A loving relationship is one in which the loved one is free to be himself – to laugh with me, but never at me; to cry with me, but never because of me; to love life, to love himself, to love being loved. Such a relationship is based upon freedom and can never grow in a jealous heart.” ~ Leo F. Buscaglia.

7. Cultivating Gratitude

Yes I am big fan of counting my blessings. I have so many things to be grateful for in my life and continue to cultivate gratitude daily. There is a lot of research on gratitude, just in case you needed some extra insights in to the benefits. “Cultivate the habit of being grateful for every good thing that comes to you, and to give thanks continuously. And because all things have contributed to your advancement, you should include all things in your gratitude.” ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson.

 

Over to You…

I hope this has given you some insight in to what is in my resilience toolkit! Yes, there are other skills and tools, however that might be for another day 🙂 What is in your resilience toolkit? Please know, I have invested a lot of time and effort to learn and develop these skills. I also continue to cultivate, maintain and grow these resources as they help support my own well-being (so be kind to yourself as you learn and grow). Do you have any questions or comments? If so, feel free to share them below!

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Continuing to Be Courageous in My Life

Continuing to Be Courageous in My Life

One thing I have learnt in my life is that if I want my life to change, I need to do the work – no-one else can do it for me. Yes, it can be challenging. However, when I am in these challenges, I remember to read and re-read the following quote by Brené Brown –

“Owning our story can be hard but not nearly as difficult as spending our lives running from it. Embracing our vulnerabilities is risky but not nearly as dangerous as giving up on love and belonging and joy – the experiences that make us the most vulnerable. Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light.”

Today, I wanted to share with you one way I am continuing to be courageous in my life, even though it is uncomfortable at times. However, before I do that, I just wanted to make sure we are on the same page about courage.

 

What is Courage?

There are many definitions of courage including –

  • “the ability to do something that frightens one; bravery,” and “strength in the face of pain or grief.” ~ Google
  • “the quality of mind or spirit that enables a person to face difficulty, danger, pain, etc., without fear; bravery.” ~ Dictionary.com
  • “the ability to control your fear in a dangerous or difficult situation” and “to be brave and confident enough to do what you believe in” ~ Cambridge Dictionary
  • “The ability to do something that frightens one; bravery” ~ Oxford Dictionaries
  • “mental or moral strength to venture, persevere, and withstand danger, fear, or difficulty” ~ Merriam-Webster Dictionary
  • “The state or quality of mind or spirit that enables one to face danger, fear, or vicissitudes with self-possession,confidence, and resolution; bravery.” ~ The Free Dictionary
  • The Latin origin of cor means ‘heart’ and middle English denotes the heart, as the seat of feelings.

So looking at the definitions of courage, would you agree it would be useful to have some courage in your toolkit for your life, career/business and your relationships?

 

One Way I Am Being Courageous In My Life

A few years, ago I made a promise to myself to be my own best friend. Part of that process was to tell the truth about where I was in my life and where I wanted to be. Yes it was (and still is) uncomfortable, however I know it is important if I want to continue to commit to my purpose. Over the years, I have started to see there is a difference between honest and truth. Honouring these differences, has helped me to continue to be courageous in my life.

 

What is the Difference Being Honest and Telling the Truth?

Normally, when I discuss differences between words, I look up a dictionary. However, when I looked up honest in the Cambridge Dictionary, this is what I found –

“telling the truth or able to be trusted and not likely to steal, cheat, or lie.” 

Obviously, this presented a little challenge as they truth was in the definition of honesty. So to clarify, for me, I see them as –

  • Honesty – relating to me (i.e.. my thoughts, feelings, judgements, opinions about a situation) and expressing each of these things as accurately as possible, and
  • Truth – the accurate facts (i.e. data) representing the reality of a situation.

An example of how I have used honesty and telling the truth in my life follows –

  • Honesty – I am feeling guilty about spending so much on groceries this week,
  • Truth – I spent $90.80 on groceries and $8.00 of that was on cookies.

Once I develop awareness around these differences in my life (with my self-compassion of course), I can then consciously choose which steps to take in my life, so that they move me towards my dreams 🙂

 

Over to You…

I hope this post has given you some insight in to one way I continue to be courageous in my life. If you have any questions or comments, please leave them below.

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